I put the class in wizard class synthetic user interface

Introducing Mrs. Undad

Screen Shot 2018-11-20 at 9.08.50 PM

This is the Cole’s Notes’ version of The Undad and me.

Trent Wilkie and I met in fall 2011.  Trent had been contracted to write a story for Theatre Alberta’s All Stages Magazine about theatres, outside of the Calgary/Edmonton bubble, that were doing interesting things.  On twitter Trent asked for recommendations, and I sent him a message from the @shelltheatre  twitter account telling him he should speak with @riz_b (me).  Trent phoned, asked for 5 minutes of my time and took an additional 40.  The first paragraph of Trent’s published story included:

When talking to her I felt like I knew her from somewhere. Like someone I may have went to school with, if the school was on the moon. “I do all our introductions before our shows and if you are over the age of 75, you will think I’m hilarious,” jokes Budd.

After chatting on the phone, Trent and I continued to connect over social media for the next several months.  On December 30, 2011 we decided to meet face-to-face. We soon discovered that for almost ten years prior our paths had repeatedly crossed, although we had never met.

On October 15, 2012 Trent proposed.  Trent/Brent/Grant was still a very new addition to my life, but my family was excited  (and surprised) for us.

We were married on March 23, 2013.  Our social media friends came along for the ride.  @SaySandra even Storified the amazing community that celebrated with us: part one and part two!  Before the year was even through we found ourselves expecting our first child.

Valdy arrived on July 29, 2014.  Trent battled through 8 months of morning sickness, and 37 weeks of fear.

Trent and I are still getting a handle on this marriage thing and we haven’t yet found a rhythm for parenting.

I’m a manager.  I like routine and order.  I’m driven.  I measure success by an expansive yard stick filled to the brim with notches and goal posts I’ve methodically laid out.

Trent is an artist.  He is creative and spontaneous.  He moves forward in fits and bursts of frantic energy.  He wants it all, now.  He thrives on chaos. He rebels against routine.

I’m constantly coming up with ways for us to live better. Cope better. Fit better.

His smartphone is a revolving door of apps to help us plan for this or save for that.  My Amazon order history is all about finding space and time.

We’re figuring this out together and Mrs Undad is about the stuff and activities that fills the space between the start and finish line.

Categorised in: Mrs. UnDad, Uncategorized

Leave a Reply

@TheUnDad

RSS The UnDad Podcast

  • Don't mess with Noreen
    In this episode I talk with Nicola Doherty of the Alberta Mamas (albertamamas.com) about the East Coast, spoon collections, child-sized weaponry, and tattooing dolphins. I'm not kidding. This episode is powered by ATB and sponsored by the Alberta Podcast Network. Thank you to Andrew Paul and the Edmonton Community Foundation for the recording space and […]
  • Did they make the right choice?
    In this episode I chat with former NHLer and current radio host Jason Strudwick. We cover topics ranging from adoption, hockey, parenthood, poetry, and a hypothetical room full of cocaine. This episode is powered by ATB and sponsored by the Alberta Podcast Network. Thank you to Andrew Paul and the Edmonton Community Foundation for the […]
  • The Questioneer
    In this episode, Trent answers the many, many questions that his rabid fanbase* sent in to him. Some of them are funny, some sincere, and some are about corn nuts. This episode is powered by ATB and sponsored by the Alberta Podcast Network. Thank you to Andrew Paul and the Edmonton Community Foundation for the […]
  • No biting
    This bad boy goes off the rails in all the best ways possible. I chat with the hilariously enabling Christine Bruckmann about the new Alberta Museum, legalized marijuana, how much I hate lentils, being a crazy parent, and dealing with hate when blogging. This episode is powered by ATB and sponsored by the Alberta Podcast […]
  • Julie Rohr Part 2
    In no specific order: Julie and I talk about the 'D' word, journalism, connecting to people you can't connect to, understanding, being brought up religious, giving yourself grace, and even though you have cancer you still have to be a parent. This conclusion of the two-parter is a doozie. This episode is powered by ATB […]
  • Julie Rohr Part 1
    If you don't know who Julie Rohr is you are truly missing out. Currently battling a rare form of cancer, Jules is defined by her infectious smile, her love of life, and her all around resplendent radness. Just listen and find out what I mean. Part 2 coming out next week. This episode is powered […]
  • The good Witch of the true North
    I catch up with Lindsey McNeill about what it is like to be adopted as an adult, how her and her mom are writing a book about the experience, and what it is like to be a screenwriter, producer, witch, and tarot card reader (and then she reads my tarot cards). This episode is powered […]
  • I moved back
    In this episode I catch up with Antonio Bavaro (alter drag ego Connie Lingua) and chat about Montreal, excessive nostalgia, family influence, and his newest endeavour that will spotlight the Edmonton queer and trans community. This episode is powered by ATB and sponsored by the Alberta Podcast Network. Thank you to Andrew Paul and the […]
  • Both of those masters are served
    In this episode I interview Dave Bidini about his new book 'Midnight Light' and all things artistic and important. Stay tuned after the credits for a bonus interview. This episode is powered by ATB and sponsored by the Alberta Podcast Network. Thank you to Andrew Paul and the Edmonton Community Foundation for the recording space […]
  • What if people want to bring their own dogs?
    In this episode, I speak with Ainsley Hillyard and Jezebel about sharing the stage, pooping on stage, their sci fi show 'Jezebel, at the Still Point', how to extrapolate your verteron exit vector, and the deep and tangible love that people have for their pets.

Follow The Undad via Email

Enter your email address to follow The Undad and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 42 other subscribers

%d bloggers like this: